How This Unlikely Trick Is Going To Be Your New Self Care Stable
Updated: Mar 28, 2019
I write this (first ever Lavender Vibes) blog post as I'm listening to the playlist I've linked for you here. The trick I'm referring to is singing love songs...to yourself. I know you've probably rolled your eyes twice before you finished the sentence and maybe even stopped reading by now. So, for the few who really want to know what I'm talking about...
This is how it started...
Everyday when I go to work, I look for songs that will shake the sleep out of my eyes or at least de-zombify me. Now when I sing, I don't just sing the words. I do vocals, bass, lead guitar and backup vocals (sometimes even if the song doesn't have any backup vocals). One day when I finished my performance, I imagined a fan from the crowd (because you know I imagined myself on stage) asking me "Who do you dedicate this next song to?"
I was about to sing Adele's version of "Love Song" and although I had of course imagined my hubby cheering me on in the crowd, instead of saying his name, I answered "Myself".
Okay, by now you're thinking two things.
One is that I'm incredibly weird to imagine all of this in my head while driving (slow and safe I promise). Two, I'm more narcissistic than Tony Stark (at least Iron Man never dedicated a song to himself)...but hear me out because you're only right about one of those things.
When we fall in love, we tend to imagine our new love whenever we hear a love song. We turn every love poem, love quote about our love interest and there's nothing wrong with that. But what is wrong is if we're trying to nurture self love and joy in our live, how come we still don't do this with our own selves.
Because it's damn weird to sing a love song to yourself, and on a whole new level of cheesy! That's why.
True, but just like we don't mind being cheesy for the sake of our love towards others, then we shouldn't mind being all kinds of cheesy to ourselves.
“If someone does not want me it is not the end of the world. But if I do not want me, the world is nothing but ending" Nayyirah Waheed
It is NOT narcissistic to want to love yourself and dedicate a full song just to how great you are. At the time my imaginary fan asked me this life altering question, I was (and still am) working hard to make myself see beyond all the reason I wasn't "loving myself", so when I answered with "Myself" it truly was a breakthrough for me.
This is how it works
The playlist I've linked down below contains some of my favorite love songs that I sing to myself. Whenever the singer refers to their loved one I think really hard about me, not anyone else. Just like how you'd pine over someone you love, and think about all the wonderful things that makes perfect in your eyes. Do the same with yourself. I even sometimes gesture to myself while singing (in the car) or just use my energy to direct all those loving vibes towards my self.
By the end of the song, I feel pretty good about myself. I feel loved, cared for and somewhat full. I just used 3 min or so to serenade myself with a beautiful love song, just for me. That, my friends is not weird, crazy or narcissistic
It is showing up for myself.
It is showing my "self" how much it matters. How much I matter.
It is self love.
Spotify: Love Songs To Me
Anghami: Love Songs To Me
So, if you're someone or know someone who is currently struggling to see all the fabulous reasons why you should love yourself more, share this playlist with your "self" and your loved one. Let's literally share the love <3
I hope you can see beyond the initial silliness of feeling weird because you're singing your favorite love song to yourself, regardless of your relationship status. Just give it a try and I promise the silliness stops and this becomes a self care stable!
My personal favorite songs on that list are:
This Will Be An Everlasting Love -Natalie Cole
Love Song by Adele -Adele
Make You Feel My Love -Adele
I Like Me Better - Lauv